Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Fears

When I was 17 my ballet teacher asked if I wanted to be in our studio's Nutcracker production as a flower and a snow flake.  I was honored and terrified.  We were never a studio of performing so being on stage in a tutu with all the skinny minnies was a daunting thought.  But then I knew I might not get an opportunity like that again.  Do you know what I told my ballet teacher?


No thank you.  I did not want to look like a stuffed sausage in a tutu.  To this day I regret that decision because I missed a wonderful performing opportunity.  Urgh, my own stupid body image issues!

But at the same time it taught me a lot about Nike.  Just do it.  Now the rule I live by is to never make decisions based upon fear.  This principle has blessed me with a life full of everything I could ever want because I am not scared to go out and get it. 


Streb Dance Company.  Free falling.  Who says dance isn't an extreme sport?  image

My only fear now is not taking every opportunity I see.   

What are your fears?  Have they ever redirected the path in your life?  Do you have any life mottos?

ps... I'm happy to report that I have worn a tutu many times since.

I'll be posting your childhood dance photos as they come starting on Friday.  So if you need more time to get them no worries.  I'll make sure they get posted!  I am so excited because so far they are absolutely precious!  My email: tiffkaddy@hotmail.com.

25 comments:

  1. ohh i llove that first picture.
    totally captures a dancer.<3

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  2. I can relate, been there & done that as well...Now, I need to remind myself "Donot to put off doing the things that are important to you until the conditions are ideal. They'll never be ideal. Do it now!"
    Well, we learn from our past right...

    xo

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  3. I think that one of my greatest fears is falling in love, and having it change all of my lifes goals and desires. Because once there's another person to think of, everything has to be rearranged.

    My life motto is just to take every opportunity that comes your way. :)

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  4. That's great that you learned from this situation. And I'm so glad you wear tutu's now, no problem!:) I try to never make any type of emotional decision ... whether it's based on fear or pure glee. I like to let things sit for a day or two at the very least and then see I how feel. You'd be amazed how you might even change your mind about something you were ecstatic about just days prior. Oh and that's my motto, never make emotional decisions:)

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  5. Congratulations for your work, I think it's a wondefull think to dance! Lovelly blog

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  6. That last picture is amazing!!! I really need to get some of my dance photos too!!! xx

    http://hopechella.blogspot.com/

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  7. great post dancing queen!!

    i'll have to think on my fears... and find you an old picture!


    www.wild-and-precious.com

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  8. I always had stage fright... but as I get older I am growing out of it. I think it was a confidence issue, my dance teacher never built confidence always broke it down, that's why I try to instill confidence in my students. It's important most of all!

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  9. I had a fear of staying in the same place for the rest of my life, so at 22 I packed up my stuff and moved from Wisconsin to Texas...I knew nobody! It was the best thing I've ever done for myself.

    I'm still looking for a picture...I think my mom has most of them, but I'll keep hunting!

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  10. I love that you used this regret in life to your advantage now, to remind yourself to push forward, in face of fear...and just do it! So motivational.

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  11. Oh, I love that last photo! Great motto, my friend! I love it - I think I am going to add this to my personal commandments. =)

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  12. oh, i am so sorry you missed out! but i am SO PLEASED that you have redirected your life and that you are willing to take chances now!

    i have so many fears, and they are getting worse and more intense with time. i know that is no good. NO GOOD. and i am trying to take a few more risks than i am comfortable with. SHAKES UNCONTROLLABLY. ugh. i am such a wuss about so many things! :)

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  13. today my fear was not being able to prepare this amazing ice cream recipe for a presentation tomorrow... have a nice one!

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  14. I used to be afraid of failure. I couldn't take the embarrassment...as I've entered my 30s, I've realized that life is too short...and a little embarrassment never killed anyone!

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  15. You wrote this perfectly:) If there was ever something deadly I swear it's fear. It keeps people away from doing so many amazing things with themselves, their lives, the decisions they make. I like your motto. Bravo!

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  16. It's amazing how body issues and fear holds us back. My biggest fear now is not amounting to anything. I sometimes worry about disappointing people too, but my biggest fear is disappointing myself. So I'm like you -- I try to take every opportunity I can as well as look for and create opportunities for myself.

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  17. great post i wish i never gave up dancing when i was 19! that was a mistake xxxx

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  18. good lesson! I guess this is the most important motto of life: to live without regrets. to enjoy each and every day. to value all the moments. to really just do it.
    ps. still looking for my ballerina pics ;) and now your facebook friend.

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  19. Although I often hate being held back by fear and really try to overcome it I wouldn't want to condem fear in general. The positive side of fear is 'being careful' and 'protecting oneself'. It's about the balance I guess. When we fear for our loved ones we also show that we care for them. It's got its function, as long as it doesn't get crippling for ourselves or others.

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  20. I totally feel what you're saying, fear can be a hard thing to overcome. Fear or rejection, failure, etc., etc., etc. I think as I get older I just realize that I want to experience the most stuff I can and, usually, the things I'm most afraid of turn out to not be so bad.

    When I get to my mom's this week I'll try to find some old photos for you. Can't wait to see everyone's dance pictures!

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  21. I completely understand your feelings. Sometimes you are just so afraid to grab an opportunity. But I think you have to "Just Do It". Chances don't come along all the time.

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  22. This post is brilliant. I don't think a lot of people realize how afraid they are. My favorite "rule" is do one thing each day that scares you. It's a quote by E. Roosevelt, and I love it.

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  23. That's so funny -- as a child I was always procrastinating and having trouble getting things done... I adopted the "Just do it" philosophy. And one Christmas, my mom gave me a Nike sweatshirt that said "Just do it." I'll never forget it.

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  24. I love your rule about life, 'Never make a decision based on fear'. I believe that if we can live life with this principle in mind that life will be full of wonderful adventures and the paths we walk will be full of challenge, joy, light and love. I'm so proud of you. Love, Dad

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  25. Wonderful post! I think that really is one of the key principles in life. I have been blessed, just personality wise, I guess, to naturally not be afraid of much, ever since I was a little girl. I remember one of my friends had this amazing opportunity trip to go abroad for school, and she didn't go because she was afraid she'd get homesick. So many people would have done the same. And they probably would have gotten a little homesick. But that's what makes you stronger, more indipendent. My point is not that you should go on trips abroad just because, but it's that don't pass up an amazing opportunity because of fear. My own personal motto is that passion is the key to happiness. Passion for people, love, life, dance, music... whatever you choose. I think that passion is the answer to conquering fear.

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