There's some weird psychological stuff going on in my head.
Just weird.
So much so that I had a revelation at Wal-Mart (more on that later.)
As mentioned before, I went on a 6 month shopping freeze when I realized the only reason why I bought clothes was because I was unhappy with how I looked in general.
So far it's worked and I have come to just go with the flow and not obsess about what I'm wearing
because I know I can't buy anymore.
But now it's spreading into all areas of my life and it's actually very freeing.
While at our semi-annual (and I mean we can only handle it twice a year) trip to Wal-Mart
I looked around at all the Christmas decorations and it occurred to me that I didn't want to look at any of it.
I said to myself "Hmm... I don't need any of that. I have enough from last year."
I used to be all about giveaways and freebies but now I don't even bother with them
because I'm actually pretty happy with what I have in life already.
I've become less commercial and less obsessed with material goods.
That's not to say that I won't be blogging about fantasy dinner parties or cute outfits.
I've become prudent, not dead.
Tomorrow's post:
How this shopping freeze has effected (affected?) my weight.
photo by John Matter from his series Dancers Among Us
View my original post about this series here.
26 comments:
Go you.....material things dont make you who you are....family and friends and a love for yourself do:)
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I think it's wonderful that you feel so free due to your shopping freeze, Tiffany.
Honestly, I admire your strength. I feel that I sometimes shop too much to compensate for other things that I'm missing in my life. Additionally, sometimes I think that people see me as being materialistic based upon my belongings, when there's far much more to me.
Maybe a shopping freeze would be beneficial for me, as well. :/
Tiffany, this is wonderful!
Every time I read another of your posts about the shopping freeze, I realize I need to do another one. I've just been putting it off.
...and affected is the right spelling! :) Whenever affect can be (almost) switched with influence (as a verb), it'll start with an a. English spelling is so weird.
I'm going to need you to teach me your ways.. I found myself looking at new furniture last nite & mine isn't even 2 years old! :\ I should prbably see a psychologist.
I've actually been trying to chill out when it comes to material things. But with Christmas coming up that's HARD!
ok first can we talk about how thats the coolest pictures EVER!? I love it! I keep scrolling back up to it. Its so .. cool!
Ok, now onto the actual point of what your saying.. yes! This is great! Not only are you not just buying up happy feelings, but your seeing that you have some really great "stuff" right at home with you already. isnt that a good feeling? I always feel better when I dont spend over my budget on shopping trips. Cant wait for tomorrows post!
Brilliant photo1
And I think that it is good to have a 'freeze' and so true that you do become more focussed on other things instead.
Enjoy your older clothes to the full!!!
I have actually gone about a month and a half without buying any clothes or jewelry or shoes or anything for just myself. I have, however, bought stuff for our house - but that's because we are just trying to decorate it and make it our own. We're on a spending freeze now because we bought a guest bed and beddign and it wiped us clean! But I love what you've learned from this and want to apply it to my own life!
prudent, not dead~ like that!
I should strike a pose like the dancer that when i leave the office this Friday! WOOhoo!
The picture is awesome! It really got me some ideas! Thanks for sharing that beautiful series of pictures
Sara C.
You are doing so good! Go girl:) Have a fantastic Thursday. Kisses
Currently I feel what you felt before: not happy with how I look in general. I think I might stop soon tho :)
I love the picture!
cheers xo,
Betül
Wow, that picture is amazing. those people looking at her are hilarious. Good for you on your shopping freeze. I should probably do something like that too. I don't know if I can apply it to Christmas though haha.
-Sarah
http://agirlintransit.blogspot.com
It's "affected" ;)
There's a rule for remembering this, but I can't remember it. Ironic.
I used to make John crazy when he'd ask what I wanted and I'd say, "I have everything I want". But really, it's true, and knowing it feels amazing.
it is good to stop shopping for a while. i get at least 10 emails a day for sales at various venues. i almost always look at them. annoying! sometimes i refrain/restrain myself from buying. but i have bought 5 pairs of boots and two pairs of shoes in the last 2 weeks. GASP! i always freak out when the seasons change and end up shopping too much. it is dumb. it is smart to make do with what you have and get creative with it. and then just do a little shopping from time to time.
That's wonderful news! It's so funny, being disciplined in one aspect of life can make you be in others as well. I'm so interested to read tomorrow's post. I'm so an all or nothing girl. When I set my mind to be disciplined it goes for money, eating, gym, cleaning, less clutter. All of it :) xoxo
i love that you challenged yourself in an area of life that wasn't totally balanced, all on your own. i find that incredibly inspirational. i often make these realizations, but then have the hardest time taking action on them, like you did with your shopping freeze. and i love how it's affecting {i think it's with an "a" in this case...?} other areas of your life now too. when our brains experience how well we do, it's empowered to do well in all sorts of areas. i can't wait to read more about what you're learning and thank you so much for your openness!
That is great to hear!
I've been on something of a spending freeze for the same reason: I'm unhappy with my body! It was so cute a year ago, not that I knew it then. Now things aren't fitting right, etc.. but I don't want to buy a whole new wardrobe because of a few pounds.
It is nice to hear that after several months, there is a perspective change. I am interested in your post for tomorrow!
PS.. I am meeting Boyfriend's parents in two weeks.. Not sure what to wear, etc! Nerve racking! I'm sure they'll be wonderful, but I can't help but be a bit nervous!
I love a good fashion score...but they'll never make me as happy as my fam does!
Thanks for the inspiring message- our lives are filled with so much treasure -
Amen. Not buying clothes while I was prego (because it was depressing how big I was, and pointless because one is not prego forever) has helped me not buy ever. I already didn't shop often at all...but again I say Amen to what you said.
And the same goes for food...I know you haven't posted yet but...I don't buy junk, so we don't eat junk. Of course we eat fast food every now and then, but the only junk I eat I made myself. And baking burns a few more calories than opening a package :) I think everyone should eat more food and way less junk. And if you much eat sweets - make them yourself.
Haha, I can only handle walmart once or twice a year myself! I think its great that you did the shopping freeze and were able to pinpoint how you were feeling about yourself...
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go you. we live in such a consumerism culture, it is hard to break away from that sometimes.
also, LOVE that photo.
I NEED to do this... I need to go on a spending fast. I need to have the strength to go one week without buying myself something... how did you get started?!
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