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All friendships have ups and downs.
It's rare I find a friend who's willing to put up with my craziness
(thanks for those who stuck around, haha.)
But when you find a true friend they need to be held on for forever.
Which is why I have a lot of regrets
(i.e., friendships that I've let slip through because I am horrible at picking up the phone or writing emails. Even Facebook I'm terrible at. Don't get me started on texting).
With that said, do you have any thoughts on friendships?
Anything you need to just let go of?
Here's a place you can do so anonymously.
Sometimes just putting it out there is the best therapy.
30 comments:
That picture is awesome! Love it!! xo
Such a lovely theme. I have been a crap friend for the last year or so. Having a nomadic kind of life puts a strain on friendships or any kind of relationship. My goal for this year... Even though I usually don't make them. Was to put more time and effort into my friendships, not just a 15 min chat a week. Here's to achieving that goal!
I've always had a hard time meeting girl friends. I just don't seem to click with a lot of them...
Such a sweet photo!
I love that with my true friends I can not see them for months at a time (because hey, I live in England and don't get around to flying over the ocean that often for a visit) but the minute I see my friend again it's as if no time has passed at all... we just pick up right where we left off.
good friends make all the difference in life. they are the girls that you can be yourself with...that laugh at everything and have fun doing nothing :) i love my girls! xoxo jillian:: cornflake dreams
black and gold LOVE!!
I find that, as you get older, you encounter so many people who have deep-rooted friendships with one another, and they seem to be reluctant to let anyone new into their groups.
It makes it hard for newbies to form long-lasting bonds and relationships and can result in such strong feelings of loneliness sometimes.
I just wish people would be more accepting of change and less...cliquey. :/
I lack any deep friendships in y life right now and it makes me really sad when I think about it. those I was close to live all around the country now and like you, I am terrible at keeping in touch. I feel like I have never been a good friend. I think that I'm afraid to be totally vulnerable or getting too close to someone (besides my hubby) because I have had friends that have treated me like crap in the past. I so log for having a "best friend". it's been years.
i think true friends will stick with you through thick and thin. and even if you haven't talked in a long time, when you get together, it will feel like you just picked up from the last time you saw each other!
Good friends are invaluable. I lost my two best friends to cancer so I know how precious life can be. So now I try to be the best friend possible to my other friends. It's hard. Life gets in the way. I'm definitely not the best facebooker or anything like that. Also I rarely call anyone but I try to make plans as often as possible and I'm a pretty good emailer. All in all I think my friends know that I'm here if they need me.
Great topic! :) xoxo
i seriously feel like the worst friend in the world sometimes. i'm horrible at phoning/emailing/texting and while i have a handful of good frineds who seem to understand my downfalls, it makes me feel so awful about myself and the relationships i'm letting down - and for some reason, i can't make myself any good at it. it's nice to know i am not alone.
i'm almost afraid to admit it but being anonymous helps - i cry about how terrible i am at keeping in touch pretty much weekly.
Oh yes, it is hard sometimes to maintain frienship. Gotta get better at picking up the phone
Sometimes I feel that I'm the only one putting forth effort into certain friendships. I call, give the conversation steam, I ask about them, their pet, and anything else that matters. I remember things they said two months or two years ago.
But in response, there isn't that same interest in me. Sometimes, I would really like to hear "how are you?" followed up with wanting to hear more. A friend forgot about my dad dying and said he saw my dad the other day. I bought a best friend a concert ticket and another dear friend a ballet ticket for Christmas. They didn't get me anything, and they skipped my birthday too.
Things like that hurt me so much, and I don't know how to bring it up. How do you say, "I'm hurt, because I feel like you've been inconsiderate to me." It seems so selfish.
Sometimes I'm not the best at keeping up - but it is a two-way street. I am making a more conscious effort to be a better friend, as I do value these relationships and want to have them forever.
I miss having best friends. I used to have such close girl friends that I went through so many things with and since losing them I find that I have no close girlfriends. It makes me so sad and I don't know how to go about finding new friends. How do we do that now that we're older and not in school? Should I put an ad on my blog? Should I walk up to random women at the mall?
I'm not sure facebook etc helps friendships really... you end up thinking you know stuff about your friends without ever speaking to them! That's my only little thought for the moment!
hee-hee! I just posted a little friendship in pictures view on my blog! We are on the same wavelength! :)
I lost my closet friend this year in the very worst circumstances. I'm worried about her, but I'm so angry by the way she destroyed our relationship that I can't make myself reach out and help her. And the worst part? I genuinely miss her.
Sometimes I wish we treated friendships more like we treated marriages, and felt a deeper sense of commitment to making them work.
Thank you for giving me a place to say this.
Also, closest, not closet. Although a closet friend isn't a bad person to have in your corner either.
My best friend died of cancer a few years ago, I only have one friend left now and she is just amazing, she is an utterly incredible human being.I would love to be able to meet other people socially but as others have said, as you get older, it just doesn't happen, people are busy with so many things.
This is something that is on my mind quite frequently. We just moved out of a college town (BYU-Provo) and had the privilege of knowing so many wonderful people. But we all moved on with our lives, got jobs and moved away. It's so hard to stay in contact with them from afar...even when they are only a 30-40 minute drive away. Why is that? I think for me it's easy to stay in constant contact with someone that I am bound to see at least once a week or who lives in my neighborhood. Face to face contact is essential for me. I also get overwhelmed by how many friends I have left behind in California. If I were to try and stay close to all of them, I know I would fail miserably. But I think my true friends are the ones that understand that life happens and even if we haven't talked on the phone for months, we could still pick up the phone and talk to one another at any time as if we were never apart.
This image inspires lots of deep thinking. Its amazing how so many people are out there blogging about things on my mind. Thanks for this little reminder to always be a great friend.
friendships can be so fab. they can also be so NOT FAB.
i have let many friendships go (i know, i know, that sounds awful), and i am trying to figure out how to extricate myself from another. sometimes you learn things about people that you really don't like, and really don't want to be a part of. i am not big on confrontation (unless i really need to do it, then i go balls out). some people are the way they are, and sometimes i don't want to be around them.
so, on a cheerier note, i treasure the few really good friends that i have, and i drop the others sooner or later. lol
Last week at the conference in LA I had the realization that no matter how much you try there are people you cannot be friends with... they just don't respond to you with the same kindness and dedication you do to them...
On the other hand during my exhausting job search I've come to see that a couple of my friend have been there for me never allowing me to feel down or anxious... the have not turned their back on me at ALL!!!
The key to have good friends is to find those that love you in the same degree you love them
What a beautiful picture, I really love it. I actually need to learn to say no and let the friendships that I've outgrown/moved past just go. I have come to realize that friendships don't have to be forever, sometimes great friends come and go in our lives and they don't make them any less special if they run their course.
It's definitely hard keeping things up with a baby I've learned. But I also don't want to be one of those people that is baby-centric. That always really irritated me with others. So I feel like it is so important to make time for all of my sweet friends who love me dearly, even if my time is a little more restrained these days.
oh man...these are words that speak so true to me. i am thankful for the friends that keep me real and don't allow me to be lazy about those things! such a great reminder! XO brynn {p.s. thanks so much for stopping by today! this is my first stop by your blog and i LOVE it! newest follower!}
oh reading this late into the night made me think. good friendships are so rare and need to be held on to tightly. I think we all have some regrets when it comes to people, sometimes holding on too loosely and others not letting go soon enough.
But I like to think, that no matter what, the good ones, the ones who are meant to be in your life, always manage to find a way to stay. :)
What can I say! I thought I was the only one. I have had to let many friends go. But one friendship has never stopped hurting. My closest, best friend somehow just grew distant and we finally stopped communicating. I tried to pick up the threads too late. But I guess, we all move on.
I too have had a few friends who understand my insanity and have stuck around. But I feel I need to do more, be a better friend.
Great subject to post, Tiffany!
Sadly, I've been too busy too keep in touch & when I do, somehow we can't relate to what's happening in each other's life somehow...
All I know is that relationship must be a two way street, that is heavily traveled in both directions~*
amen?
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