Monday, December 16, 2013

Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin


I saw this on Pinterest and thought, "Yes. Yes this is it. This is exactly what I try to do in every part of my life. This is what I've tried to do via my blog, photography, dancing, reading, writing... everything." It's what I've been trying to do but hadn't realized it. It's more than just physically being comfortable in my own skin, it's accepting all that is me: the defeats, triumphs, changes, and roadblocks. 

I blogged about sense of self before and when I re-read the post I realized I missed the biggest part about having a strong sense of self: pursuing passions. For what you love is truly the essence of who you are and to not actively try to live with your own passions is cheating yourself of the largest part of you.

I know we can't pursue our passions all the time, but I've been thinking about how I can find little ways to nourish that part of me. When I don't have the time to write, I can can still make up little stories in my head. If I can't make it to the ballet, I can at least listen to the score on Pandora. I don't have the time to be in a company, but I can still choreograph on my own in the studio. Maybe it's not the ideal situation, but it's better than nothing and all these little moments of nourishment won't be wasted- they're important. It's like having six small meals throughout the day rather than three huge ones. 

I love the thought that pursuing these passions, even if just in small ways, will help me become comfortable in my own skin. I love the thought of owning my sense of self. I know this isn't revolutionary thinking, but to me it's a breakthrough in how I approach life and how I value the things I love to do.


Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Are you pursuing your passions (even if in small ways)?
Do you feel they're related?


18 comments:

  1. What a wonderful, beautiful, inspiring post. I think I'm comfortable in my own head, but less so in my body. I'd love to feel more of that.

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  2. To become that comfortable and present really does require intentional effort, for me anyway. Each day, each moment, it serves me well to reflect on why I am doing what I am doing, and if by doing it, I am honouring myself or ignoring myself. Sadly it's still the latter a lot of the time, and yet I am working on it and so I give myself the permission to stumble in my pursuits.

    A lovely post and a beautiful message as always.

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    1. Thank you. I always appreciate your thoughtful responses.

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  3. love this! and yes, i am trying to do what i love and focus my energy on those projects as much as i can. as for feeling comfortable about my body i am defiantly getting there! this year has been challenging but i am at a good place and actually enjoying working out again. xo

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  4. How do you always know just what i need to read at just the right moment? i'm feeling overwhelmed today, so THANK YOU!!!

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  5. I was doing pretty well till some stupid old lady customer told my boss that I'm a good server but "how can you work with her when she has such an annoying voice." Seriously so offended.

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  6. I feel like I'm definitely trying the best I can. I think!

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    1. I saw as long as you're happy, then that's what matters.

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  7. That's awesome. I thought this was going to be a body image post, but you made it so much more.

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  8. I definitely feel that they're related, as pursuing your passions brings confidence, and confidence works hand in hand with feeling comfortable in your own skin.

    I don't feel that I have evolved that far yet; but I'm working on it.

    xx

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  9. i think i struggle w/ my weight and look all the time, but this is a great reminder!

    xo,
    Sandy
    Sandy a la Mode

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  10. This is so inspiring! I put aside my dreams because I thought they were childish, but it was a terrible decision. Now I'm taking small steps towards my passion and it feels so good.

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  11. well this is a good reminder! i have neglected some things that used to make me happy, and i need to make it a priority to revisit them.

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  12. You always have to love yourself! I think it's the key to life. Knowing who you are and loving the good and bad in it all.

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  13. I am comfortable in my own skin. It took me awhile to get here. Leaving my bad marriage was step #1. Finding myself again was a process and a journey that I believe will always continue as we are always changing and evolving. I am happiest when I am pursuing anything I'm passionate about so I think you are onto something there. xo

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  14. I don't feel comfortable at the moment. I'm getting married in two weeks and I've just lost a lot of weight. That sounds good until I mention that I didn't want to lose any at all. I was a healthy weight a few weeks ago and very happy with my figure; even with the bits that I look at and know aren't perfect. Then I got ill and lost a bit. I tried to put it back but I got stressed. Families being awkward about things is the biggest understatement ever. I have IBS and my body responds to stress by making it painful and unappealing to eat, then by expelling everything I do eat. I've lost 8 pounds so far and it's still falling off me. My dress is going to be too big and I'm going to look skeletal.

    My point being, the post has made me hope that I'll look back on the photos and just see happiness and love shining through, and therefore beauty, but I am worried that I'll look back on them and see a woman who looks too thin, unhealthy and just not me.

    Does anyone have any top tips? Thanks

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